Silly…dated quite a few women before getting married at 33; 76 now. Zero use of math/knew she was the one the moment I saw her. She took a little longer;)
As you said, humans are not mathematical probabilities. Everyone is different. For me, do not get stuck on trying to find "the right one." Enjoy your life, date people who you find interesting and get to know them. Do not look at dates as an object. If you explore your own interests and get to know people, you will likely find someone who is a good match. But maybe not. Don't force it.
The 37% rule is complicated or flat out impossible if there is more than one decision maker. Dating is special and interesting. The boy wants the best girl that is satisfied with him. And the girl wants the best boy satisfied with her. Very few such solutions!
I guess the smart thing is to stay with the first such pairing found.
For optimal solution, See the "marriage problem", interesting in its own right.
Hmm. 37/100 dates or more. That person would lose their purity. Comparing all these different dates and then choosing…idk. I dont know if I would want to date or be serious with this type of person
Beside the mathematical possibility it's very much a matter of the heart to find Mrs/Mr Right and we want that outcome we likely have better chances if we treat this world and all people around us in a more kindly and loving manner.
What about those of us who don't want to ever "settle down?" We do exist! There shouldn't be an assumption that everyone wants the same thing out of life.
Most people do not approach relationships or finding “the one” with pragmatism and stats, it’s usually emotionally driven. This is kind of silly to say 37% because if someone is outstanding and they’re ready to settle down, they will. If someone’s outstanding and they’re not ready, they won’t.
Life and falling in (or out of) love is more complicated than that. Your next date after your 37th trial might be the person’s first date and he or she isn’t yet interested in committing.
With love & relationships, my general rule is that there’s no perfectly crafted person for you. There’s an imperfect you and another imperfect person who just wants to be together and do life together.
Interesting post, but I think with relationships (and possibly other matters) we need to use our intuition. Anytime I've trusted mine I've made the right decision. Anytime I didn't harness it I didn't do so well. Wish I had figured this out when I was younger. But I do like the idea of the 37% rule for things like house/apt/job-hunting, where you need to find out what the options are.
Dated one man. Married him. Lived happily ever after for 60+ years.
Silly…dated quite a few women before getting married at 33; 76 now. Zero use of math/knew she was the one the moment I saw her. She took a little longer;)
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As you said, humans are not mathematical probabilities. Everyone is different. For me, do not get stuck on trying to find "the right one." Enjoy your life, date people who you find interesting and get to know them. Do not look at dates as an object. If you explore your own interests and get to know people, you will likely find someone who is a good match. But maybe not. Don't force it.
The 37% rule is complicated or flat out impossible if there is more than one decision maker. Dating is special and interesting. The boy wants the best girl that is satisfied with him. And the girl wants the best boy satisfied with her. Very few such solutions!
I guess the smart thing is to stay with the first such pairing found.
For optimal solution, See the "marriage problem", interesting in its own right.
Hmm. 37/100 dates or more. That person would lose their purity. Comparing all these different dates and then choosing…idk. I dont know if I would want to date or be serious with this type of person
It is a fun read.
But anything more than that is just for a laugh.
Ties nicely with the ultimate stopping power, think restaurant selection..
It's a good read for sure!
Beside the mathematical possibility it's very much a matter of the heart to find Mrs/Mr Right and we want that outcome we likely have better chances if we treat this world and all people around us in a more kindly and loving manner.
What about those of us who don't want to ever "settle down?" We do exist! There shouldn't be an assumption that everyone wants the same thing out of life.
Would this be applicable while deciding on a stock to buy , The population of stocks being so large.
Most people do not approach relationships or finding “the one” with pragmatism and stats, it’s usually emotionally driven. This is kind of silly to say 37% because if someone is outstanding and they’re ready to settle down, they will. If someone’s outstanding and they’re not ready, they won’t.
Dating game is far behind me. I don't think I ever husband- hunted when I dated. Celeb- rated 45th anniversary last spring.
Cautious shopper and consider products at length before purchase. Fell in love with husband after 3 dates. 48 years ago.
This rule ain't practical at all. It's all intuitive and intentional.
Life and falling in (or out of) love is more complicated than that. Your next date after your 37th trial might be the person’s first date and he or she isn’t yet interested in committing.
With love & relationships, my general rule is that there’s no perfectly crafted person for you. There’s an imperfect you and another imperfect person who just wants to be together and do life together.
Interesting post, but I think with relationships (and possibly other matters) we need to use our intuition. Anytime I've trusted mine I've made the right decision. Anytime I didn't harness it I didn't do so well. Wish I had figured this out when I was younger. But I do like the idea of the 37% rule for things like house/apt/job-hunting, where you need to find out what the options are.