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Interesting post, but I'd like to point out that it should not be assumed that if someone does not have a partner later in life (or any time) that they are 'lonely'. That couldn't be further from the truth, especially for many women, who usually maintain social ties with friends/family and don't need a partner to be happy.
What happened to Freeze; as in Fight, Flight, or Freeze? Freeze is a common response for me. Not denial but watchful waiting. If it ain’t getting worse it’s likely getting better. It is stress but, in my experience, kind of a low level stress because, although you are not fighting or fleeing, you have taken action and, oftentimes, it is the only action needed.
Shouldn't the article title be "The happiness shortcut that *IS* hidden in plain sight"? Did I miss something in English class? Please, it's time to stop butchering our language. Good post otherwise. :-)
I am fascinated by the mind-body connection and seeing data results from MRIs. I wish, in addition to regular blood work, people would do that someday. MRIs can be used to see how our brains are doing. Thank you @Robert Waldinger
We must re-do this study of happiness and longevity, because hanging around with other people is definitely NOT my recipe for happiness! The older I've gotten the LESS I associate with other people, the HAPPIER I feel. People are exasperating! Half of them are stupid, and the other half are nuts! Keep the people away, and bring the animals. Bring me a dog and a cat. Put me on a farm with cows and sheep and goats, then I'm happy. People? Get them away from me!!
Unfortunately our society values and encourages these connections less and less. We grow up with our phones instead a real friend. We have a lot of work to do!
Interesting post, but I'd like to point out that it should not be assumed that if someone does not have a partner later in life (or any time) that they are 'lonely'. That couldn't be further from the truth, especially for many women, who usually maintain social ties with friends/family and don't need a partner to be happy.
Also, one must continue to search for solutions throughout one's life regardless of age. I'm 72 and still feel like a beginner in life.
What happened to Freeze; as in Fight, Flight, or Freeze? Freeze is a common response for me. Not denial but watchful waiting. If it ain’t getting worse it’s likely getting better. It is stress but, in my experience, kind of a low level stress because, although you are not fighting or fleeing, you have taken action and, oftentimes, it is the only action needed.
Shouldn't the article title be "The happiness shortcut that *IS* hidden in plain sight"? Did I miss something in English class? Please, it's time to stop butchering our language. Good post otherwise. :-)
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I am fascinated by the mind-body connection and seeing data results from MRIs. I wish, in addition to regular blood work, people would do that someday. MRIs can be used to see how our brains are doing. Thank you @Robert Waldinger
We must re-do this study of happiness and longevity, because hanging around with other people is definitely NOT my recipe for happiness! The older I've gotten the LESS I associate with other people, the HAPPIER I feel. People are exasperating! Half of them are stupid, and the other half are nuts! Keep the people away, and bring the animals. Bring me a dog and a cat. Put me on a farm with cows and sheep and goats, then I'm happy. People? Get them away from me!!
Unfortunately our society values and encourages these connections less and less. We grow up with our phones instead a real friend. We have a lot of work to do!