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Tim Colman's avatar

What a BS headline.

Like we have a choice to be attached to be alone. The tech bros you work for are all too happy to have us isolated with our chatbots and turn off the hard earned empathy that keeps our society's social glue. Billions in advertising to get us alone. We are super social animals who 150 years ago, a blink of an eye were forced inside.

Begin with being forced off our land in the 1800's to go work in factories for nearly free. Now that the corporations who hijacked our public commons internet have colluded to force people to use the internet for everything, we have no choice at all.

The digital pens we live in are built with our addictive minds and narcissism first priorities.

Read Brian Klaas, book Fluke and Robert Sapolsky on no free will in his book Determined https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ITEq8bSLPw

Then read any buddhist texts on the philosophy of no self is the real antidote to despair.

Allegiance to a ruling class that wants to separate us for political gain makes bank for all kinds of chirpy PR firms.

That is abundantly clear here, too.

Whose side are you on?

Get outside peeps. Your phones will not save you. Making eye contact will.

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Marc Atherton's avatar

The attention economy is an amplifier of the trend- with Ai turbocharging things. I think asocial is a better term - or perhaps Durkheim’s anomie?🤔

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Dhomnull Johnstone's avatar

What has contributed to the antisocial movement even more is the change in the public manners of most Americans. We used to be friendly, polite and open to talk with others. Now we have the entitled, low education, angry whites who feel it is their right to get in anyone’s face who isn’t white and low education because their ignorance is even more important than anyone else’s education or knowledge. People are tired of these 3 year olds running amok and being loud and obnoxious so people have pulled back into their small circles and isolated themselves. This has led to the white uneducated growing even angrier and going out and shooting up their neighbors. This leads to even more people withdrawing and isolating in fear. Right now we have a fear epidemic in our country and until the policing forces start rounding up these hate filled 3 year olds and incarcerating them and taking their guns this is how our country will end.

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Bob Rominger's avatar

Central air conditioning is also a contributing factor, during the warmer seasons people would go for walks or sit outside on the porch and talk to their neighbors

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julie's avatar

Read this and made a date to have lunch with a friend. In person!

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John Raisor's avatar

Someone much smarter than me said this in a comment thread a while back: TV hit 50% adoption in the 70s and made previous generations more self absorbed and isolated. Everyone started watching TV at night instead of playing cards with the neighbors. Smartphones hit 50% adoption in the early 2010s and made things that much more self absorbed and isolated.

I believe that no one wants to go out into the world because we live in an individualistic, self absorbed society where everyone does every single thing that they possibly can to avoid looking in the mirror. And thats what happens when we are around other people. We get a better, more objective look at ourselves, and are forced to acknowledge that our identities might entirely based on lies, and our terrible behavior is not justified despite the narratives we spin.

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Gael MacLean's avatar

Naive at best. How you can distill the state of the world and this country down into a desire for loneliness is hubris. Big Think is about Big Picture, and your premise lacks any depth or knowledge of how societies operate and are influenced in this day and age. Back to school for you.

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Tyler's avatar

Love the concept of amistics! Thank you for bringing that to my attention.

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Dan Creamer's avatar

When I was young, before TV and A/C became ubiquitous, I not only had many friends with whom I socialized, but the families in our neighborhood lived on our porches and in our backyards. Today, in most restaurants, you will see people eating together who ignore each other to look at their phones. Children are depressed because they are lonely.

Though my childhood friends and my Marine Corps buddies are far away, we talk all the time and reunite every year. Love and connection are the greatest human attributes, and you cannot get either from AI...

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Andrew Hodges's avatar

I recognise everything you've written. Humans have easily invited themselves into their own bubbles and in many ways are comfortable with it. I have written a blog on Entrainment and how susceptible we humans are to it. In balance entrainment is good for us, but to excess can even lead to manipulation and gaslighting. I am not too optimistic about these toxic developments and where they might lead to in the short term. We will though I hope still retain our need for community, in my case through music.

https://www.andrewhodges.com/post/entrainment-1

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Dan Creamer's avatar

The hard-right-wing media is a great example of manipulation disguised as entertainment...

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Arthur's avatar

Thank you, for all the insights that came reading this content. Amazing reflection and in my opinion - is that the great problem of our modern and technological society. We just jump into the new, whithout even knowing how to behave there.

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Fredrik Söder's avatar

Very interesting take! ❤️‍🔥 Love it!

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Gerard DiLeo's avatar

Long dead, Andy Warhol's prediction that everyone would be famous for 15 minutes has undergone a parasocial collapse. The time that everyone is famous has shrunk well below 15 minutes, having now reached T-zero. Everyone famous, all at once, everywhere—such that no one is.

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